As women, we are faced with the decision of whether or not to date more than one person at a time, and of course we are always the double standards. If a man does it, its fine...but as women, we are supposed to act differently, but the question is HOW? "Boundaries" is one of the most important factors. At the end of the day, its not "what you do" BUT "how you do it".
The key is to LOVE like a woman, but DATE like a man!!
1. (Act like a woman, think like a man) Change Your Way of Thinking
This is probably the most difficult but vital thing to do in order to enjoy dating. Stop thinking “marriage material” as soon as you meet a man, instead enjoy the company of interesting new people who may surprisingly share some commonalities. Think of a date as a time to share conversation, laughs, food, drinks, etc. Not to secretly plan the colors of your wedding.
2. (Choose your battles) Don’t Over-Analyze
Over-analyzing sometimes sabotages the feelings of simply going with the flow. As women we sometimes obsess over every text message and conversation. Instead, just go with the flow and enjoy the date for what it is. Maybe it’ll lead to another date, maybe it won’t.
3. (Take it Easy at First) Don’t Worry About Potential In The Beginning
Is he financially stable? Does he love his mother? Will he make cute kids? Don’t worry about these things in the beginning. Enjoy your dates without the expectations of him becoming the father of your first child. Maybe you’ve looked at his nose and decided he won’t make cute kids; but so what? Maybe he’s funny and has other great qualities. If you rule him out in the beginning because he doesn’t fulfill your ‘Potentials Check-list’, you may miss out on a great guy, or at least a great date.
4.(Don't Give the Milk for Free, Make Him Buy the Cow) Don’t Give Too Much Too Soon
Giving too much can come in the forms of sex, domestic favors, etc. Basically don’t treat a situation as if it is a committed relationship if it’s not. As women we are naturally nurturers and givers. It’s okay to give, but don’t give too much of yourself without a commitment.
5. (Some Things Are Better Left UNSAID) Don’t Expose Too Much Too Soon
On the first date, he shouldn’t know about your first boyfriend who cheated on you, why you have been searching for Mr. Right since college or intimate details about your family. Leave some conversation for future dates. If you expose too much too soon, there’s nothing left.
6. (Don't Claim What's NOT yours....YET) Treat Your Date Like A Friend Not A Potential Mate
Enjoy your date like you enjoy your time with a friend. In turn he’ll probably enjoy you. Why? Because you’re more open, fun, and not dressed in the facade that most of us subconsciously wear on first dates. Laugh, be yourself, and enjoy the company.
7. (Don't be scared to Chuck up the Deuces) Know when to let go
If you’re dating someone then you really don’t have any ties to that person.
Know when to let go of someone you’re dating if it’s no longer fun, exciting, or even if you the relationship isn’t going in the direction you would like. Know when to let go. Men definitely have this skill mastered
8. (Let your hair down) Have fun
Ultimately it’s about having fun and enjoying your life. Who says you don’t deserve the company of someone of the opposite sex to hang out with, if only as a date?
Repping their home teams!
Toya & Guests
As many of you know, Fantasia has been getting the blues from her ex-boyfriend's wife, Paula Cook, who claims that Fantasia knowingly pursued her husband while they were still together. Well, Fantasia has continuously DENIED the rumors, claiming that Antwaun was separated from him wife and living in a completely separate home at the time of their affair, but that did NOT stop his wife from suing Tasia claiming "Alienation of Affection".
According to an interview on Fox 5 News:: "People tend to have more sex during the holidays, according to experts".
